Talk the Talk 话话世界

Today, the topic I am going to talk about will be a bit sentimental and dull...

As a 19 years old, I would say that I am someone respect marriage and I respect freedom. I believe in relationship or in marriage, when one want to leave, he or she should be given the chance to leave.

However, not everyone or even me can be so IDEAL Rational when it comes to this type of situation.

I am a child that experience to be the middle person, witnessed my parents arguing, debating, fighting or whatsoever, and I don't think the child feel good.

I am someone who can accept my parents to divorce if they want, probably my sister said I am crazy but yet I think if this is the best for 3 sides, why not?

But things may not be the same in every family.

I often doubt the meaning of love and marriage when I came across stories... especially broken-pieces of family.

When a child have to see his dad beat his mum...

When a child have to see his mum scold his dad....

When a child have to stared at his mum's back who are leaving...

When a child have to stared at a crying face of dad...

will it affect the child?

Moreover, if the child had been fighting hard for great results to show his parents that he is good and his parents are good but yet he has to accept the fact that his family will never in a complete form?

I believe a guy would face problems too if he has this kind of problems, furthermore if girls?

Why do adults always scold children childish while themself are still not yet mature?

Why adults pretend that they are traditional where divorce is impossible and yet barely hanging on just for the sigh of "traditional value"?

If a man starts to beat his wife, I believe he no longer love his wife.

You can give all sort of reasons like emotionally unstable and blah blah blah but NO! A guy gives flowers, chocolate, kisses and hugs when going after a girl. A guy bought car and house when they married with the girl. A guy works days and nights just to earn money to provide his wife and his children basic needs of life. And if a guy "PAK" his wife, it means that all these had been history.

How hard it takes for a man to beat a stranger?

Harder to beat a friend?

Much harder to beat his children?

Then it will be impossible to slap his wife?

but if he does, whether he is right or wrong, it never deny that the love has somehow ... gone.

And I think parents should always take care of their children feeling...

One broken family can lead to the happened of broken families...

The impression of marriage and love is important for children... if they no longer believe in this... nothing much will get their attention to live and to bear with.

Children may showed they are impatience with their parents but when it come to the fact of choosing...

they will choose to lose no one.

If the world is just about either dad's or mum's, then the child will only have halfside of what the others have.

It's always easy to ask someone "not to trust in love anymore" but it's hard to made someone to trust in love.

From a child's angle, I hope all parents (husbands and wifes) could think wisely before doing anything...slaping,leaving,crying,fighting... at least when you want to do it make sure you are not in front of the children.

Good luck, girls.

I couldn't do much to help you girls out. It's out of my ability to tell or to judge. What I can do is just pray for you all and be with you all.

My parents taught me a lot... they do argued... but through their arguements, I learnt that there are things that I should and shouldn't do... and the duty and responsibility as a man, a lover, a husband or even a father.