Talk the Talk 话话世界

Today,I had heard one woman confessed about her problem, marriage problem with her husband.  

The background of the story: The husband and wife have no child. Both of them was young and quite open minded. They had live a normal live until one day the husband asked to divorce. As usual, the wife will guess that her husband has an affair. Being a calm and smart lady, the wife checked her husband's stuffs and contacts such as hand phone and email. At last, she found out who she is and everything about her. She gave two choices to her husband, first one was leaving the house as alimony and he can go whenever he wants. Second was stay with her as husband and wife. By forcing the husband pay all the house loan one
shot, leaving the house completely to the wife. The husband decided to stay. So 3 of them had a meet up. So the wife as the one, who had the right to speak the loudest, stated her point of view clearly.  

 I had pondered a lot of things after hearing this whole story. First I don’t deny that this wife was tough but I think she just too tough and strong for a guy. I’m not trying to blame the wife in this incident. But most of the time, girls used
to be sweet when they are girl friends but not after they become wife. This why the guy "used to" enjoy to be with them and love them. Not every guy can be alright if the girl had a sudden change when they married. Some of the girls will turn to someone fierce and money minded, thinking all the way to boost themselves and their husbands to earn more for the family. If any girl would had been as strong as an iron lady, I believe the guy would feel scared and not comfortable.  

          I think guy should also be responsible. At the moment you agreed to marry someone means you really have to take care her no matter what. This world, there's a lot of beautiful girls and there will be just more and more, guys just can't take it all. It's not like shopping. Marriage is a very special yet holy thing, don't ever take it as a fool or joke.

           Although the wife looks fine when she was telling us this whole incident, but everyone will know she is indeed not at all. iIt's actually a very sad case that happened on a woman especially someone that actually I'll say quite success in her career. I really hope she'll be fine when time go on. Because once a marriage face a problem, it's like a crystal ball fall on the floor, although it's not spoiled but you can see the crack and it's can't be fixed back to original completely.

           I watched few movies about marriage. They actually brought the same lesson: a guy shouldn't be too obvious when having affair, girl shouldn't be too hard on husband's affair. Give him some pressure but not killing him at all, as a step to keep his faces
at the same time hers as well. So isn't this a bit sad? Like every marriage will end up the husband has an affair, the girl has to pretend want to find out at the same time keep this family? Is this a principle for marriage? Is it a must-going process?

          I hope not. At least till now. I never betrayed anyone. I believe in love, so I want to make everyone do so...

"Love is something good, couple is not burying love and never ever take marriage as killing you and your lover slowly..." -Chun Hui    

Update in 2011, this woman did not divorce with her husband, in fact now they live happily with their new born baby. Life, unexpected isn't it. Whether a man worth the forgive or not, it's all depend one on's thought and mind. After all, she still lives happily, what's matters? Nothing.