Talk the Talk 话话世界

Let's be away from the hasty topics, goes easy on other topic. Let's talk about social.

I've encounter countless people especially guys asking me how do I get so close with girls. There are even people said that it's not me, if I don't flirts.

So today I'm going to share with everyone my tips and tricks for being a playboy and mix well with girls. LOLx.

First of all, there are a few criterias to be a playboy.

1st, with confident but not arrogant.
2nd, respect female but not affraid of them.
3rd, willing to give up including remain single for a long long time.

When you got all these you are qualify to be a playboy, follow these tips.

1. Remember all female need males.

They will need a father to protect and love them, a brother to talk and play with them, a boyfriend who care and share things with them, a husband who support and give them everything. So to be a playboy, you need not to be one of these roles, but all the roles. Yes! You will need to let the girls feel that you are realiable and lovely, and you then be attractive.

2. Remember you can always tease a girl but not 24/7.

Teasing is often a easy to use but hard to learn social skills. But making jokes and laughin, it does pull people closer, BUT when you went too much, it's will be annoying or even irritating. Normally, people see me tease girls, looks and characteristics, and there are guys who follow also. But why some guys got disliked while I never have this. What people see are on the surface but not throughout. Never tease on people's name, they are gifts from parents, tease on people looks but not over, and never ever compare with animal. And believe it or not, I explain and apologise to those girls I teased personally either sms or msn. And always tell them why I tease them but not others. It made girls feel pleased and they forget those tease and maybe they enjoy it next time. =)

3. Praise and see a girl throughout and sincerely.

Everyone is not perfect, and of course not everyone with a beautiful look and perfect body. BUT, trust me, everyone has their best parts. Be sincere and praise people with it and not just "perfectlise" people by saying "You're so pretty". Sometimes it did made the girls feel insulted. This why I love to tease then praise the girl, at least she will feel that, alright you see my cons and now finally you see my pros. Not every girl with high confidence, and I met so many that have no self-esteem. Praising them all the time made them scared and they will feel like you are going con them anytime. So be sincere, talk to them with a serious tone and praise them.

4. Juggling between JOKER & SERIOUS.

All girls enjoy to be with a mature thinking man. But who will want to be tense and serious 24/7, and guess what? Being a joker doesn't mean you are not serious, all you got to do is being a high-class joker. Create humuor with some senses and not some low class yellow jokes. A playboy will definitely need to have two sides. It's made girls feel reliable. They know that you can help them when they have problems, and you are playing and joking with them not because you are ignoring their problems but you are trying to calm them down.

5. Willing to SHINE but not over.

It's important not to self-praise in front of these girls; but if you are good, you will shine. People will eventually know you and tell you. But please do not keep saying "I'm bad" and let people say that "No. You're good." It doesn't made you look superior. Appreciate and sincerely treat every positive thoughts that others have on you. I often got praised that i'm caring, and I will just tell them that, "Not to everyone. But at least to you. You're important to me." Well, it often lead the girls break into laughters. But who cares, at least I made them know they are not alone.

6. Drawing lines and follow them.

Yes, being a playboy, you did have lines to follow. No matter how many girls you are close with, how close are you with them. Yes, you concern them, take care them, protect them and could be the closest to them but YOU'RE NOT THEIR BOYFRIEND. So there are things that you don't have to know and ask. And don't be so offensive that when these girls reject to tell you and you get so frustrated and give up everything. You are now their boyfriends and so there are things that you should kept yourself away, no hugging and kissing unless you are allowed to.

7. Being naive and needing sometimes.

You are playboy and you are not superman. There will be time where you have problems or need someone to talk to. Do not hesitate. These girls will sense and feel them, by saying "ok,i'm fine" wouldn't made you or she ok either. So tell them. They may not be helping, but you and she will feel better after talking. What I love to do is, girls like to ask what can they do for me, and I would really ask why, and they will respond that because I helped them a lot. I will always say "Cheh, I thought you're interested in me." Either the girls will let you go instead of keep asking how to solve the miseries, or they will go on asking what do you actually need. Try some challenges, asking a text "muackz muackz" or something sweet. 90% that even though those girls don't do these always, they will still text that muackz muackz.

8. Justify your girls but not yourself.

When you get close with girls, you must remember people will be jealous. Either girls jealous why you don't pick them but others, or guys are jealous why you are closer with these girls but not them. And rumuors will begin, and things start to get ugly. I see, most of the guys will step out and say "We're just friend la."... "Aiya, I wouldn't like her de la, she so..." "She just close with everyone, don't you agree" etc. A great playboy will choose to say "I just love to be with she, so?" "She just too attract me, are you jealous?" "Oh,she is closer to me. Maybe because I'm so close to her." You don't have to tell everyone how clean are you. After all, you choose to be a guy who are so attractive among girls. Pay a price and I bet it's worth. Most important is the girls are not hurt and they are not affected. Ask these girls do they mind or any help they need. You wouldn't know maybe one of those guys are someone she care or mind.

9. Willing to give up.

Yes, not yourself, but these girls. They maybe cute, maybe attractive, maybe your closest friend. But like I said, you are not their boyfriends. It's may be funny, but it's true that, maybe because of you, these girls are more attractive, and some guys just like things that are popular. And if there are guys going after these girls, wish your girls all the good luck, assist them through when they have problems, but not hasty to keep them with you if there are some good guys after them. And remember the line should be a borderline whenever your girl has a boyfriend.

10. You will have some crashes, it's normal.

You may so wanted to protect these girls that close to you, but it's true you are not super, you may found that they have problems and they didn't look for you. It's normal, they may not want to trouble you, and they may not know how to open mouth, you may start to blame yourself you are not sensitive enough. But never give up. Just try to improve yourself. You may also found that you are not getting any girlfriend. Like what I'm having, 70% of my girl friends think that I'm a good guy but 90% of them will never want me to be boyfriend. But I enjoy to be a guy like this. These girls treat you closer than their girlfriends, tell you more than what they tell their boyfriends, they share with you and play with you, for me, it's more than enough. You may be one of those that had a girlfriend among these close friends, and if you have to draw a borderline. Make sure tha you do them well, don't made these girls feel that you was just looking someone to be girlfriend, now you got it, and they have no more values.

So these 10 tips is what you need remember to be a playboy.

Why you have to be? I myself find it's important to be this type of guy because

1. it made girls to feel good and loved.
Not every girl satisfy with their girlfriends. Most of them I encountered has some conflicts with girls, it's important for them to know there are someone who willing to listen and care them.

2. made these girls improve an better.
I got feeback from some of them saying that I made them learnt that they don't need a boyfriend to live. Yes, it's important to let the girls know, they can have good friends beside boy friends. So they don't over rely on boyfriend until they have to sacrifice or suicide just to keep a relationship.

3. SWEET

Made girls that normally feel they are not cared or preferred like those popular girls felt they are now being cared and close. And I myself also feel having so many dears.

Last part of this post will be some little things that you can do to made a girl feel sweet.

1. Do not affraid to date her out alone.

It's important because if you are affraid, the whole outing will be tense and embarass.

2. Fetch her if you are alright.

Asking a girl for date where she need to stuck in bus or public transport will somehow made the sweetness a bit off. So give her a ride.

3. Ask a girl whether the time and venue is alright before the date happened.

Everyone may have emergency and deserve a second chance to say no.

4. Bring the girl to try something she never try.

Share a popcorn, couple seat for movie. Well, it's maybe a fresh try for those girls that never couple before. But just don't do anything over. =) Bowling, pool, snooker, archery, karaoke, theme park rides and maybe adventure trips.

5.Walk the girl to car park or bus stop.

Unless she insist a NO, but you can always beg her to allow you to. The sweetness wouldn't go away by pulling down your face.

6. Ask the girl to text you if she has take public transport or drive home alone.

It's for safety precaution and at least it made people feel sweet and secured. Well, sometimes you asked and may not get a sms back maybe becos she forgot, she busy or even she may feel akward for doing so. As a guy, just text her that you had reach home. =)Well it take some steps to made people feel sweet and not akward.

7. Being caution if a girl date with you and wearing short dress.

Yes, it's easier to be expose. Some people may not mind, but you don't have to place a bet on this, just tell the girl be careful. It didn't mean anything but just concern.

8. Text or even call a girl if you know that she may be not alright.

She will say fine, she will say ok, but when you believe she is not, just give her a call or text. Listen to her, or made her listen to you. She doesn't have to be immediately alright but she just has to laugh and cheer for that half an hour, it helps.

9. Be prepared to stay out midnight.

Yes, I love to sleep early but when you see I'm not, I either on msn,sms or phone call. Sometimes when somone want to talk to you, they forget the time, they need you, sacrifice few hours for the sleep, definitely worth it. Don't think that she could always have other person to talk to, because there's a reason why she say that she know you care her.

10. Calling a girl, dear, sweetie, didn't mean that you are taking advantage.

Do not be too serious on the nicknames. But don't made yourself feel bad if the girl accept these nicknames open heart. It mean nothing. Be happy to sweet her, and alright if she doesn't want these, it's normal for girl to feel shy.

There are a lot tips and tricks to made a girl feel sweet and made yourself attractive among girls, but you only need to be CREATIVE, INITIATIVE AND SINCERE HEART to be a PLAYBOY.

A playboy is not someone who trick girls on bed, nor someone who is not serious in every relationship...

but a playboy decide not to made choices but be close related and protect girls that need him to be there.

I don't think I need a relationship because I have girls. =)